I must admit, I’ve been struggling just lately with the fact that Alexander no longer wants to spend any time with me. It’s really hard, especially when I look on timehop and see pictures from a few years ago with us all out for the day together.
So this morning I decided to broach the subject with Alexander about coming out with us for an ice cream at Upton country park. As you can imagine, this went down like a lead balloon! Lots of moaning and groaning about being tired and it being too much effort. So I’m not ashamed to say I resorted to a bit of emotional black mail! How sad I was that he wouldn’t come out with me etc… He relented and said he would come!!! Yippee, he actually is great company and does really enjoy himself when leaves his bedroom.
Being the lovely mum that I am!!! I pushed the boat out and treated them to lunch out too. Lunch was delicious, one of the bar staff recognised me as a ‘dinner lady’. He was lovely, we had a quick chat, he told me how he was waiting to join the forces and how he’s now 18. I left feeling even older!!
Upton country park is one of my favourite places to visit, as a family we go there quite often. It has my favourite route for running too. They also do the best ice creams there as well and not to expensive. Today the park was really busy, not surprising due to the lovely weather. We grabbed our ice creams, mine of course was mint choc chip and set off for a walk.
All in all a great Tuesday!
traceycwilliams
Aug 04, 2015 @ 19:44:07
Lyn I am totally with you in the whole struggling with teens preferring to stay in their bedrooms. Though I have 9 more days until I can say I have a teen. Morgan is exactly the same and when you are so used to them being with you its so hard. Hubby keeps reminding me of when I was a teen (and YES I think I spent about 2 years in my room). I know its ‘normal teen’ behaviour but its still hard getting used to it. My son is not too bad about coming out for a few hours with us, but the minute we are back he is back in the cave. You can’t win being a parent as I am sure I would have killed for just 30 minutes peace and quiet when they were toddlers x
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lymbown7
Aug 04, 2015 @ 20:00:44
I know what you mean. I was thinking exactly the same thing this morning. When Alexander was little, he’d never leave my side.
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Ali
Aug 04, 2015 @ 20:56:05
Ah what a lovely day. I’m glad he came out with you in the end.we love Upton too, were there lots of children in the fountain? And what are you doing in that last photo?? Xx
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lymbown7
Aug 04, 2015 @ 21:04:43
It was busy today Ali. Ha ha, it’s from a Mcbusted photo!!
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Truly Madly Kids (@TrulyMadly7)
Aug 05, 2015 @ 09:24:04
Ahhh fab that he came out – he actually looks happy about it too 😉.
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lymbown7
Aug 05, 2015 @ 09:29:22
That’s the think, he actually does enjoy himself when he goes out! Thanks for the comment. X
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thehollyhockdoor
Aug 05, 2015 @ 16:10:46
Thank for sharing this lovely post (#sharewithme)! I’m glad you had a great day together — your photos are wonderful and it looks like everyone enjoyed themselves! I have a 3 yo and an 17 month old so I’m a few years away from this scenario but I know it’s coming! Just this morning I was getting frustrated with the constant questions, the following around, the clingy-ness so this post is a big wake-up call to enjoy those snuggles while I can!
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lymbown7
Aug 05, 2015 @ 16:21:46
Thanks for your lovely comment. Make the most of having little ones, I miss it. X
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Merlinda Little (@pixiedusk)
Aug 06, 2015 @ 13:13:05
I remember this phase not of my son yet but me just wanting to be left out and be with myself. I always dont want to go out but when my mother would dragged me I would always go home feeling it wasnt that bad =)
#sharewithme
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lymbown7
Aug 06, 2015 @ 15:12:18
He does pretty much always enjoy himself! Thanks for the comment. x
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Lisa@intotheglade
Aug 07, 2015 @ 07:31:41
Oh I have a tweenager who is exactly the same but a 19 year old at uni who complains that we leave her out of everything, I can’t win. This looks like a lovely day though and there is nothing like a stroll in the woods. Lovely pictures #ThisWeekIv’eLoved xx
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lymbown7
Aug 07, 2015 @ 07:34:50
Thank you. My daughter is 16 and always wants to come out with us. x Thanks for your comment.
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abeautifulabodedevon
Aug 07, 2015 @ 09:11:42
looks like you had a great time and don’t worry my mum used the guilt trip regularly on me as a kid and I’m not scarred for life or anything in fact I have my own version stored in my parenting armoury ready for used lol! #thisweekiveloved
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lymbown7
Aug 07, 2015 @ 09:16:33
Ha ha, sounds like you’ve got it planned. A bit of a guilt trip doesn’t hurt them! Thanks for your comment. x
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Ali
Aug 07, 2015 @ 11:55:24
… And thanks so much for linking up with -#thisweekiveloved. Xx
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Emma's Mamma
Aug 07, 2015 @ 19:37:13
Sounds like you had a lovely day out! I remember what it was like being a teenager and I am not looking forward to being the mum of one.. Great photos, even if he didn’t want to hang out with you it certainly looks like he had a great time 🙂 #ThisWeekIveLoved
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lymbown7
Aug 07, 2015 @ 19:46:23
Thank you, We definitely did have a great day, x
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nourishingmyscholar
Aug 07, 2015 @ 20:07:39
I’m so glad he came out with you! Everyone looks so happy. Thanks for sharing #ShareWithMe
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Mum in a Nutshell
Aug 09, 2015 @ 18:36:48
I have a 15 year old and it’s so hard knowing he really doesn’t want to spend time with me anymore. He leaves his room for food & that’s about it, I can barely get him to talk to me and yet when his friends are round he’s really chatty with them. I tried to be a fun funky parent but nothing works. I really miss my cuddly chatty little boy, like you I have to resort to bribery to get him to spend time with me. #twtwc
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lymbown7
Aug 09, 2015 @ 18:39:24
It’s sad isn’t it. I still get to give him cuddles so it’s not to bad! Thanks for your comment. X
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Jenny @ Let's Talk Mommy
Aug 09, 2015 @ 19:35:51
Nothing wrong with a little emotional blackmail. It looks like you all had a great time. It’s hard when they get older and don’t want to be with us as much any more. Bless but makes times like this so much more special. Thank you so much for linking up to Share With Me. #sharewithme
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Caroline (Becoming a SAHM)
Aug 10, 2015 @ 10:04:23
Ah sounds like a lovely day and I don’t blame you for resorting to emotional blackmail, it probably does no harm for him to do something for someone else! I am not looking forward to those days as I know we will go through them too! Xx #sharewithme
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lymbown7
Aug 10, 2015 @ 10:07:46
He does enjoy himself when he comes out. Thanks for your comment. X
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booandmaddie
Aug 10, 2015 @ 11:21:52
I’m glad he relented and came out, although I remember being EXACTLY the same as a teenager, I was effectively an only child since there’s such a huge age gap between me and my brother and so my parents just overruled me every time I said I didn’t want to go anywhere. Such a strop. Of course 20 years later it’s totally different 🙂 #TWTWC
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Seize each day...
Aug 10, 2015 @ 18:08:04
Ha ha yup know it all far too well but glad he relented and let you buy him lunch and ice-cream Lyn lol. Lovely pics too xxx
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lymbown7
Aug 10, 2015 @ 18:20:16
Thanks Sammy! I
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Hannah | Make, Do & Push!
Aug 12, 2015 @ 09:04:26
Oooh I’m lying here with my 7 week old thinking I really need to make the most of cuddles!!! Sounds like a fun day 🙂
Thanks for linking up with #TWTWC xx
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lymbown7
Aug 12, 2015 @ 10:38:47
Enjoy your cuddles. I miss them!
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